greiving?????

ok not many of you know someone close to me dies last week the day after there birthday the last time i got to see her was right before i had adrian and she never got to meet him so they put her to rest today how do you say good bye to someone you wernt ready to lose and how do you comfort the person that was wvwn closer to them (her son) hes hurting right now and i dont know how strong i can be for him when i can even be strong for my self